How To Create A Daily Family Schedule
Having a daily family schedule is beneficial because it provides a structured environment which is critical especially for elementary age children. A daily schedule will communicate the family’s shared goals and will allow your child to contribute to his/her accomplishment.
How To Create A Daily Family Schedule
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Having a daily family schedule is beneficial because it provides a structured environment which is critical especially for elementary age children.
A daily schedule will communicate the family’s shared goals and will allow your child to contribute to his/her accomplishment.
Here are some simple steps to help you create a daily schedule for your family.
1. Start by analyzing your day. Try doing a simple time study. Use a daily calendar and note what each family member is doing at each time of the day. Watch out for problem times and think about how to structure the schedule to eliminate problems (problems related to hunger, stress, behavior, disorganization, etc.)
2. Decide what your schedule goals are. Do you desire less confusion in the morning? How about homework completed by bedtime? Is having a clean home one of your goals? What about family play time, children in bed by a certain hour, or relaxation for you and your spouse? Be sure to balance family activities with family rest-this is very important. Take a honest look at both parent and child needs.
3. Write it down. Put the family schedule on a poster board and hang in a high traffic area for all to see. Let the family know you will now be following this schedule. Stand firm against opposition.
4. Follow the schedule for one week. Check it often and let it guide your days for one week. Have the children check the schedule and follow it. Ultimately you want the children to learn to take responsibility for their part of the schedule.
5. Schedule tweaking. Once you’re through the first week, check your schedule for what is working and what is not. Make the necessary changes and rewrite the schedule on a new poster board. Hang it back in it’s high traffic area spot for all to see. Continue to follow the family schedule until it comes naturally for your family.
Successful scheduling to you!
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By Lisa Fraley
Published: 9/15/2006
Tuesday, March 31, 2009
Monday, March 30, 2009
The Blessing of Marriage: Tools For Training
The Blessing of Marriage: Tools For Training
By the Word of God, we have been exposed on how to have and raise godly children. I believe you have taken advantage of that teaching already. You shall not disappoint destiny. Today, I shall be discussing the topic, ‘Tools For Training’. There is the “how to” for every instruction in the Word of God. A discovery of the “how to” in child training will guarantee your rest over your children. Two vital tools for training Love and Control are what shall be discussed this week. These tools when properly utilized will produce a discipline that is lasting and that produces a good character in your children.
Love and Control work hand in hand as twin brothers. A child you do not love you cannot control and a child you have no control over you cannot claim to love. You need 100 percent of each for your children.
LOVE
When administering the instruments of discipline, remember that love is patient and kind. If you have to beat your children at all, do not beat them till injury occurs.
Love is very patient and kind…. It is never glad about injustice, but rejoices whenever truth wins out. (1 Cor. 13:4,6)
Do not allow discipline to degenerate to child abuse. Always let your children know that you love them and that your reason for disciplining them is because of your love for them. It is important for you to know that children are very sensitive, so if your actions and words do not portray that you love them, they will doubt it even if you say it. Therefore it becomes mandatory that you do these two things:
1.
Develop a relationship of mutual trust with your children. Let them know you trust them by admitting your mistakes when necessary and ask for their forgiveness, if need be. Never be too proud to say “I am sorry” to your children when you have made a mistake “…Do not irritate and provoke your children to anger…. But rear them tenderly in the training and discipline and the counsel and admonition of the Lord. Ephesians 6:4.” Encourage them to confide in you, just as you confide in them. Treat them as people and not as inferiors, this will help their self-image.
2.
Always demonstrate your love. The Lord Jesus who is our example demonstrated His love for the children when He rebuked His disciples for turning them back. “Let the children come to me ! Never send them away! For the kingdom of God belongs to men who have hearts as trusting as these little children’s. Lk. 18:16”. “Then he took the children into His arms and placed His hands on their heads and He blessed them. Mark 10:16”. This is an example of how to show love to your children. Take note of the following in the above scriptures: The Lord Jesus carried them and laid His hands on them. As a parent, learn to carry, hug and kiss your children. Touch your children, and let them touch you in return. The Lord Jesus is not an high priest that cannot be touched. (“For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched… Hebrews 4:15”) Also He blessed them. Ensure that you compliment your children. Remember, your words are very powerful and your children will become what you say about them. A wise man once said, “A torn jacket is soon mended; but hard words bruise the heart of a child.” This means that if your children tore their jackets, it can be mended; but if you abuse or speak hard words to them, you bruise their hearts and the “tear” in their heart is much more difficult to amend than their torn jackets! So, be careful what you say to your children!
CONTROL
To control is to have authority and power in order to direct, manage or rule. Love without rule leads to destruction. This can be seen in the story of the sons of Eli. Your children are not supposed to control you. And just like Eli found out in 1 Samuel 2:22 & 29, “…Wherefore kick ye at my sacrifice and at mine offering, which I have commanded in my habitation; and honourest thy sons above me, to make yourselves fat with the chiefest of all the offerings of Israel my people?”. You cannot train your children if you cannot control them. No matter how you love your children, control is necessary; it is the stabilizer of love. This simply means if you cannot control them, then you cannot mould their character. When control is lacking, then the love you show them is no more the right kind of love. It is important for you to make them understand that there is a need for control in order to avoid excesses and destruction.
A man without self-control is as defenseless as a city with broken walls. (Proverbs 25:28)
As soon as possible, teach your children that they will have authority over them in life, which they have to submit to. And the best way to display this is by example. As they see you submit to others, they will recognize that they too must submit to higher authorities. Make them understand that it is for their good (Romans 16:1-5).
Using Love and Control keep your children on the path of disciplined lives. That is because, children who are sure of their parents love, and are trained to obey authorities will find it easy to allow a loving God to control their lives. Both Love and Control go hand in hand; one cannot be effective without the other. Armed with these two spiritual tools, disciplined and godly children that you desire shall be raised to the glory of God, and they will in turn pass the baton to generations after them.
I pray that God will grant you grace to perform in Jesus mighty name. You shall not fail. Your children will remember you and call you blessed. It is well with you.Have you been born again? If your answer is no and you would want to be born again and to be called a child of God, say this prayer of faith:
Lord Jesus, I come to You today, wash me clean from my sin, make me a new creature. Thank You Jesus for writing my name in the book of life. Now, I know that I am born again. Amen!
Congratulations! You are now born again and a child of God.
By the Word of God, we have been exposed on how to have and raise godly children. I believe you have taken advantage of that teaching already. You shall not disappoint destiny. Today, I shall be discussing the topic, ‘Tools For Training’. There is the “how to” for every instruction in the Word of God. A discovery of the “how to” in child training will guarantee your rest over your children. Two vital tools for training Love and Control are what shall be discussed this week. These tools when properly utilized will produce a discipline that is lasting and that produces a good character in your children.
Love and Control work hand in hand as twin brothers. A child you do not love you cannot control and a child you have no control over you cannot claim to love. You need 100 percent of each for your children.
LOVE
When administering the instruments of discipline, remember that love is patient and kind. If you have to beat your children at all, do not beat them till injury occurs.
Love is very patient and kind…. It is never glad about injustice, but rejoices whenever truth wins out. (1 Cor. 13:4,6)
Do not allow discipline to degenerate to child abuse. Always let your children know that you love them and that your reason for disciplining them is because of your love for them. It is important for you to know that children are very sensitive, so if your actions and words do not portray that you love them, they will doubt it even if you say it. Therefore it becomes mandatory that you do these two things:
1.
Develop a relationship of mutual trust with your children. Let them know you trust them by admitting your mistakes when necessary and ask for their forgiveness, if need be. Never be too proud to say “I am sorry” to your children when you have made a mistake “…Do not irritate and provoke your children to anger…. But rear them tenderly in the training and discipline and the counsel and admonition of the Lord. Ephesians 6:4.” Encourage them to confide in you, just as you confide in them. Treat them as people and not as inferiors, this will help their self-image.
2.
Always demonstrate your love. The Lord Jesus who is our example demonstrated His love for the children when He rebuked His disciples for turning them back. “Let the children come to me ! Never send them away! For the kingdom of God belongs to men who have hearts as trusting as these little children’s. Lk. 18:16”. “Then he took the children into His arms and placed His hands on their heads and He blessed them. Mark 10:16”. This is an example of how to show love to your children. Take note of the following in the above scriptures: The Lord Jesus carried them and laid His hands on them. As a parent, learn to carry, hug and kiss your children. Touch your children, and let them touch you in return. The Lord Jesus is not an high priest that cannot be touched. (“For we have not an high priest which cannot be touched… Hebrews 4:15”) Also He blessed them. Ensure that you compliment your children. Remember, your words are very powerful and your children will become what you say about them. A wise man once said, “A torn jacket is soon mended; but hard words bruise the heart of a child.” This means that if your children tore their jackets, it can be mended; but if you abuse or speak hard words to them, you bruise their hearts and the “tear” in their heart is much more difficult to amend than their torn jackets! So, be careful what you say to your children!
CONTROL
To control is to have authority and power in order to direct, manage or rule. Love without rule leads to destruction. This can be seen in the story of the sons of Eli. Your children are not supposed to control you. And just like Eli found out in 1 Samuel 2:22 & 29, “…Wherefore kick ye at my sacrifice and at mine offering, which I have commanded in my habitation; and honourest thy sons above me, to make yourselves fat with the chiefest of all the offerings of Israel my people?”. You cannot train your children if you cannot control them. No matter how you love your children, control is necessary; it is the stabilizer of love. This simply means if you cannot control them, then you cannot mould their character. When control is lacking, then the love you show them is no more the right kind of love. It is important for you to make them understand that there is a need for control in order to avoid excesses and destruction.
A man without self-control is as defenseless as a city with broken walls. (Proverbs 25:28)
As soon as possible, teach your children that they will have authority over them in life, which they have to submit to. And the best way to display this is by example. As they see you submit to others, they will recognize that they too must submit to higher authorities. Make them understand that it is for their good (Romans 16:1-5).
Using Love and Control keep your children on the path of disciplined lives. That is because, children who are sure of their parents love, and are trained to obey authorities will find it easy to allow a loving God to control their lives. Both Love and Control go hand in hand; one cannot be effective without the other. Armed with these two spiritual tools, disciplined and godly children that you desire shall be raised to the glory of God, and they will in turn pass the baton to generations after them.
I pray that God will grant you grace to perform in Jesus mighty name. You shall not fail. Your children will remember you and call you blessed. It is well with you.Have you been born again? If your answer is no and you would want to be born again and to be called a child of God, say this prayer of faith:
Lord Jesus, I come to You today, wash me clean from my sin, make me a new creature. Thank You Jesus for writing my name in the book of life. Now, I know that I am born again. Amen!
Congratulations! You are now born again and a child of God.
Sunday, March 29, 2009
Family Influences
Family Influences
Everybody has a family of some kind. Some are great. Some are challenging. It’s up to you how you accept their influences.
Each of us was born with a family of one type or another. If the family you got was loving and supportive, that is what you could handle. If the family you got was not loving and supportive, that is what you could handle. The designer of this universe would never be cruel enough to ask you to do something knowing you were not capable, so if you’ve got a load on your plate, it must be because you are capable of handling it.
Let’s talk family now. I have a concept of what family should be: these are the folks who know me, love me, accept me, are always supportive, applaud my successes, support me when I falter, adore my children, never criticize, look for ways to help me. Is that what your concept is? Now I wrote that sentence tongue in cheek because that is not what some families do. Many families are critical. Some are downright destructive.
What matters is what you do about the concept of family. Our initial relationship with our family is one of dependency. We are little kids and we are dependent on our parents for emotional, physical, spiritual and financial support. We need that. Unlike some of the wild critters, we are not born quite so self sufficient. We are not made to stand, walk, and nurse within hours of being born. We have families who help us to unfold the skills and strengths to eventually take care of ourselves.
Because of this early state of dependency, when we eventually strike out to assert our independency, our families take offense. They think we are not considerate or grateful for all they’ve done. They think they still have the vote for our lives and they are not shy at all about exercising their right to vote.
Developing a firm stand for ourselves as individuals with our families is one of life’s challenges. Each of us has a right to become who we think we should become, and no one has the right to interfere with that process. So they never do, right? Ha! You know they are in there meddling with that process frequently.
What to do? It’s an opportunity for you to exercise the strong voice of your own vote. In your life, your vote is the only one that counts. In your children’s life, you and your ex are the only ones who have a vote. If you’ve got a family who is highly skilled in sharing their opinion with you, you now have the opportunity to find your own words to get this message across "Thank you very much. I’ll be making the final decision." My virtual assistant told me that her father used to tell her "You listen to me and then you do as you damn well please." She always answered him "Yes, Dad, but I always consider what you say." It worked for her.
If you don’t see yourself as the end-of-the-road authority in your life, I suspect it is time for you to strengthen that role. Like an actor, study the dialog, practice in front of a mirror, have a friend read the lines with you. Do whatever it takes to get comfortable in this role before you have a chance to use your skills real time. When real time happens, you’ll be ready. Oh the first few times that you assert yourself, your listeners will more than likely be shocked. You’ve changed the pattern! You’re no longer their pawn. You’re becoming your own person. That is one of the gifts from divorce: you get to unfold a whole new sense about your Self and it’s always an improved model.
So be grateful that your family is there, running you through your paces. You are the authority in your life and the lives of your children. Your family had the opportunity to exercise this authority when they were the parents, and now it’s your turn to be l supportive as you see it. Keep firm convictions about the new role you are assuming. Be loving. Listen with attention. Know you’re capable And then do as you damn well please.
By Len Stauffenger
Published: 5/30/2008
Everybody has a family of some kind. Some are great. Some are challenging. It’s up to you how you accept their influences.
Each of us was born with a family of one type or another. If the family you got was loving and supportive, that is what you could handle. If the family you got was not loving and supportive, that is what you could handle. The designer of this universe would never be cruel enough to ask you to do something knowing you were not capable, so if you’ve got a load on your plate, it must be because you are capable of handling it.
Let’s talk family now. I have a concept of what family should be: these are the folks who know me, love me, accept me, are always supportive, applaud my successes, support me when I falter, adore my children, never criticize, look for ways to help me. Is that what your concept is? Now I wrote that sentence tongue in cheek because that is not what some families do. Many families are critical. Some are downright destructive.
What matters is what you do about the concept of family. Our initial relationship with our family is one of dependency. We are little kids and we are dependent on our parents for emotional, physical, spiritual and financial support. We need that. Unlike some of the wild critters, we are not born quite so self sufficient. We are not made to stand, walk, and nurse within hours of being born. We have families who help us to unfold the skills and strengths to eventually take care of ourselves.
Because of this early state of dependency, when we eventually strike out to assert our independency, our families take offense. They think we are not considerate or grateful for all they’ve done. They think they still have the vote for our lives and they are not shy at all about exercising their right to vote.
Developing a firm stand for ourselves as individuals with our families is one of life’s challenges. Each of us has a right to become who we think we should become, and no one has the right to interfere with that process. So they never do, right? Ha! You know they are in there meddling with that process frequently.
What to do? It’s an opportunity for you to exercise the strong voice of your own vote. In your life, your vote is the only one that counts. In your children’s life, you and your ex are the only ones who have a vote. If you’ve got a family who is highly skilled in sharing their opinion with you, you now have the opportunity to find your own words to get this message across "Thank you very much. I’ll be making the final decision." My virtual assistant told me that her father used to tell her "You listen to me and then you do as you damn well please." She always answered him "Yes, Dad, but I always consider what you say." It worked for her.
If you don’t see yourself as the end-of-the-road authority in your life, I suspect it is time for you to strengthen that role. Like an actor, study the dialog, practice in front of a mirror, have a friend read the lines with you. Do whatever it takes to get comfortable in this role before you have a chance to use your skills real time. When real time happens, you’ll be ready. Oh the first few times that you assert yourself, your listeners will more than likely be shocked. You’ve changed the pattern! You’re no longer their pawn. You’re becoming your own person. That is one of the gifts from divorce: you get to unfold a whole new sense about your Self and it’s always an improved model.
So be grateful that your family is there, running you through your paces. You are the authority in your life and the lives of your children. Your family had the opportunity to exercise this authority when they were the parents, and now it’s your turn to be l supportive as you see it. Keep firm convictions about the new role you are assuming. Be loving. Listen with attention. Know you’re capable And then do as you damn well please.
By Len Stauffenger
Published: 5/30/2008
Saturday, March 28, 2009
How To Handle The Effects of Divorce on Children
How To Handle The Effects of Divorce on Children
Divorce is never really a pleasant experience, but considering whether to stay together just for the children's sake can often be a mistake. It largely depends on the relationship you have as a family, but if you decide to divorce, there are several things you can do to minimize the impact on your kids.
Should you stay together for the children when things go wrong in a marriage? Actually, divorce may be the better option for them in the long run. Living with a tense atmosphere and maybe even the odd slamming door and shouting match can do more harm than the parents' separation. Even without these signs children can sense when things aren't quite right.
During divorce proceedings try to make sure the children know what is going on. Explain it in terms they can understand. They need to know how they will be affected and reassured that you will do your best to keep their lives as unchanged as possible. Try to avoid a situation where they will have to leave their school and friends at the same time as seeing their parents separate.
Many children will wonder if they are to blame somehow. It must be affirmed over and again that this is not their fault by both parents before it will sink in. In fact apportioning blame to anyone in front of the children is not a good idea even if it's quite obvious what lead to the troubles.
Then they have the agony of wondering if they should be taking one parent's side over the other. It's best not to use your children as a confidant during this emotional time regardless of how mature they may seem. They should be allowed to carry on loving each parent as they did before without the knowledge of what one did or said to the other. You can do your crying on the shoulder of an understanding adult friend.
Schools and other organisations that the children attend can help keep you informed about any changes in their behaviour and can be a great source of information on how the children are coping with the changes. They may feel the need to hide their emotions at home as you seem to have enough on your plate. Keep the teachers up to date with what is going on in their family lives. There is no shame in divorce these days - around 1 in 3 children will go through their parents' separation.
There will always be the situation where one parent is not prepared to play along with the best practices. The one that does put down the other parent in front of the children, doesn't turn up when they're expected or won't let the children visit with the other parent. It's best not to 'play them at their own game'. An announcement of 'See I told you daddy's a bastard/mummy's a bitch!' is perhaps not the best way to go.
Rarely is shared custody awarded to parents these days so there will be just the one principle carer. Children need to know, however, that both parents still want to be a part of their lives. For the person who does not have principle care it is important that your children know your home is theirs too. Make a space fro their belongings to stay for when they visit.
Eventually one or both parents will enter a new relationship. This, too, can be an unsettling experience for the children, especially if the introduction is handled in the wrong way. It is often less stressful to introduce a new partner as a friend at first and to make sure that any intimate moments take place away from their eyes and ears. This way the children can form a good relationship with this person and be happy when they find out that the association is rather more than 'just friends'.
As far ash the children are concerned, even once divorce has taken place, mum, dad and kids are still family. This means they will want both parents involved in the important events in their lives. Try to help each other and work together in getting both of you to the school play or graduation day. You may have ended your marriage but your partnership in bringing up your children in the best way possible must continue.
Managing the effects of divorce on children
By Mike Spencer
Published: 8/4/2007
Divorce is never really a pleasant experience, but considering whether to stay together just for the children's sake can often be a mistake. It largely depends on the relationship you have as a family, but if you decide to divorce, there are several things you can do to minimize the impact on your kids.
Should you stay together for the children when things go wrong in a marriage? Actually, divorce may be the better option for them in the long run. Living with a tense atmosphere and maybe even the odd slamming door and shouting match can do more harm than the parents' separation. Even without these signs children can sense when things aren't quite right.
During divorce proceedings try to make sure the children know what is going on. Explain it in terms they can understand. They need to know how they will be affected and reassured that you will do your best to keep their lives as unchanged as possible. Try to avoid a situation where they will have to leave their school and friends at the same time as seeing their parents separate.
Many children will wonder if they are to blame somehow. It must be affirmed over and again that this is not their fault by both parents before it will sink in. In fact apportioning blame to anyone in front of the children is not a good idea even if it's quite obvious what lead to the troubles.
Then they have the agony of wondering if they should be taking one parent's side over the other. It's best not to use your children as a confidant during this emotional time regardless of how mature they may seem. They should be allowed to carry on loving each parent as they did before without the knowledge of what one did or said to the other. You can do your crying on the shoulder of an understanding adult friend.
Schools and other organisations that the children attend can help keep you informed about any changes in their behaviour and can be a great source of information on how the children are coping with the changes. They may feel the need to hide their emotions at home as you seem to have enough on your plate. Keep the teachers up to date with what is going on in their family lives. There is no shame in divorce these days - around 1 in 3 children will go through their parents' separation.
There will always be the situation where one parent is not prepared to play along with the best practices. The one that does put down the other parent in front of the children, doesn't turn up when they're expected or won't let the children visit with the other parent. It's best not to 'play them at their own game'. An announcement of 'See I told you daddy's a bastard/mummy's a bitch!' is perhaps not the best way to go.
Rarely is shared custody awarded to parents these days so there will be just the one principle carer. Children need to know, however, that both parents still want to be a part of their lives. For the person who does not have principle care it is important that your children know your home is theirs too. Make a space fro their belongings to stay for when they visit.
Eventually one or both parents will enter a new relationship. This, too, can be an unsettling experience for the children, especially if the introduction is handled in the wrong way. It is often less stressful to introduce a new partner as a friend at first and to make sure that any intimate moments take place away from their eyes and ears. This way the children can form a good relationship with this person and be happy when they find out that the association is rather more than 'just friends'.
As far ash the children are concerned, even once divorce has taken place, mum, dad and kids are still family. This means they will want both parents involved in the important events in their lives. Try to help each other and work together in getting both of you to the school play or graduation day. You may have ended your marriage but your partnership in bringing up your children in the best way possible must continue.
Managing the effects of divorce on children
By Mike Spencer
Published: 8/4/2007
Friday, March 27, 2009
Improving Your Relationship With Your Child
Improving Your Relationship With Your Child
What is your relationship with your child like? Could it use a bit of improving?
Improving Your Relationship With Your Child
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In this issue I want to share with you something that can help you improve your relationship with your child. Have you ever come home after work and seen your child disheartened? What can you do to help? You are not sure. Well take heart ! I know that you can easily solve this situation.
First greet your kid and say, "Hey what’s brewing ?"Talk to your child find out what is their problem and what is causing their grief. Be their friend. Be sympathetic. LISTEN until your child finishes talking. Don’t judge, just work on helping solve your child’s problem. Be as positive as you can. Most huge problems are like, my friends won’t talk to me because I beat them in the spellathon.
Relate your own childhood experiences but don’t try to out do your child.
Start by saying I have experienced this problem and it is not easy to solve.
You see everybody wants to feel important. Your friends probably feel that they
should be better than you. But you won the spellathon and that is a wonderful achievement. I am proud of you. If your friends can’t accept you because you are smart and intelligent. Then it is time that you found some cool friends who accept you for who you are.
Back up and support you child. You will see a special bond forming, tell your child that you are there for them and that you will help where you can. The problems that your child faces may seem small to you but to them they are huge. So be gentle and understanding of your child’s issues.
Relationship problems can cause disappointment, and low self esteem. All children need to be LOVED . They require it and they have to be shown that by their parents.
As it has been said LOVE to children is the TIME that you spend with them. The more time that spend with your child, the more they will think that you love them.
Make it a special time with your child. It does not have to be anywhere special because you make it special for your child. You show that you care by making a specific time that you always share with your child each and everyday. Enjoy the company of your family especially your children, for they get older and grow up and sometimes move away and then you will miss them.
The time that you spend with your child is priceless. Don’t lose it ! This will improve the relationship and the rapport that you have with your child. The joy that comes into your lives cannot be measured .The memories from these times can only be savored once in a lifetime. Make it your lifetime !
Your lives will improve and be enriched. Keep working at it and not give up. In all instances be positive and be encouraging .Time is a precious commodity. Use it wisely.
The benefits of these actions for you and your child will be that you will have a rapport between you, a great parent/child relationship, and awesome trust between you.
Something that money cannot buy! Real LOVE .
P.S. Do you have family or friends who would also be interested in Learning? Send them to http://www.parent-child-help.com
What is your relationship with your child like? Could it use a bit of improving?
Improving Your Relationship With Your Child
Enlarge Image
In this issue I want to share with you something that can help you improve your relationship with your child. Have you ever come home after work and seen your child disheartened? What can you do to help? You are not sure. Well take heart ! I know that you can easily solve this situation.
First greet your kid and say, "Hey what’s brewing ?"Talk to your child find out what is their problem and what is causing their grief. Be their friend. Be sympathetic. LISTEN until your child finishes talking. Don’t judge, just work on helping solve your child’s problem. Be as positive as you can. Most huge problems are like, my friends won’t talk to me because I beat them in the spellathon.
Relate your own childhood experiences but don’t try to out do your child.
Start by saying I have experienced this problem and it is not easy to solve.
You see everybody wants to feel important. Your friends probably feel that they
should be better than you. But you won the spellathon and that is a wonderful achievement. I am proud of you. If your friends can’t accept you because you are smart and intelligent. Then it is time that you found some cool friends who accept you for who you are.
Back up and support you child. You will see a special bond forming, tell your child that you are there for them and that you will help where you can. The problems that your child faces may seem small to you but to them they are huge. So be gentle and understanding of your child’s issues.
Relationship problems can cause disappointment, and low self esteem. All children need to be LOVED . They require it and they have to be shown that by their parents.
As it has been said LOVE to children is the TIME that you spend with them. The more time that spend with your child, the more they will think that you love them.
Make it a special time with your child. It does not have to be anywhere special because you make it special for your child. You show that you care by making a specific time that you always share with your child each and everyday. Enjoy the company of your family especially your children, for they get older and grow up and sometimes move away and then you will miss them.
The time that you spend with your child is priceless. Don’t lose it ! This will improve the relationship and the rapport that you have with your child. The joy that comes into your lives cannot be measured .The memories from these times can only be savored once in a lifetime. Make it your lifetime !
Your lives will improve and be enriched. Keep working at it and not give up. In all instances be positive and be encouraging .Time is a precious commodity. Use it wisely.
The benefits of these actions for you and your child will be that you will have a rapport between you, a great parent/child relationship, and awesome trust between you.
Something that money cannot buy! Real LOVE .
P.S. Do you have family or friends who would also be interested in Learning? Send them to http://www.parent-child-help.com
Thursday, March 26, 2009
The Blessing of Marriage: Be Fruitful
The Blessing of Marriage: Be Fruitful
Today, I shall be teaching on 'The Blessing of Marriage'. It is my prayer that after this teaching, your eyes of understanding will be opened to what God has packaged for you. First, we shall be looking at the subject: Be Fruitful.
As far as you are a covenant child, there are blessings you must enjoy in your marriage. The devil tries all his best to make sure he hinders God’s people from receiving the blessing of marriage. The devil is always looking for ways to steal from the believer. (John 10:10).
BE FRUITFUL
Unfruitfulness is a problem plaguing some marriages today. However, it is worth nothing that marriage is designed for fruitfulness. With the same breath God called forth light, and it came to be, He also said to man,
Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth (Gen. 1:28).
That was not an admonition, but a commandment. God did not say, “You may be fruitful”, but “ Be fruitful!” God designed your marriage to be fruitful. Never mind whatever contrary report you may be holding in your hands now. Barrenness is not of God, and should not be seen as a lesson or punishment from God. God tempts no man with evil. If there is anything like that, it is of the devil. Remember, the devil is the thief who has come to steal, kill and destroy (John 10:10).
If you are married, and reading this article, and you are expecting the fruit of the womb, know that God is much interested in your being fruitful and multiply. It is the devil that is at the back of your affliction. Grab him and collect back your title from him. A loving father does not give his son a stone in place of bread. Splash the blood on the devil and collect back your inheritance from him NOW! For instance, you have been married for a few years now, and you are running out of patience with God. Maybe there are even some mockers around you saying it to your hearing that you are papa or mama ‘nobody’, rejoice and be glad. Why? The will of your heavenly Father is that you are fruitful, and the Word says:
For the LORD God is a sun and shield: the LORD will give grace and glory: no good thing will he withhold from them that walk uprightly. (Psa. 84:11)
He will not ask you to come back tomorrow for this good thing, He will give it right away. It is in His power to give you and He will surely give it to you NOW. This is your hour. God has made known His will to you. Who can turn His hand back? What kind of medical report can annul what the Almighty Himself says? Whose report will you then believe ? Relax and come to your senses. Stop panicking and running helter-skelter. Stop cursing and abusing your mockers. Stop spending your fortune looking for man-made-god-given-children. Stop frustrating your life. Be at peace with yourself and with your God and let His Word come to pass in your life.
Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. (Psa. 127:3)
As long as you are a child of God, you are entitled to the blessing of children. No matter what the doctors have diagnosed as being responsible, God is greater than the report. Faced with barrenness, what do you do? PRAISE HIM (Psalm 67:5-7)
Praise is comely. As you praise Him, your womb begins to yield her increase. Stop murmuring, God is not against you. Stop complaining, God is not the cause of your trouble. Remember Hannah, year in and out, she went to Shiloh with her husband, full of complaints that her mate was mocking her. Until she learnt the art of heartfelt prayer and vow to God, nothing happened. Stop looking at your distracters, face your God. When you look up to the sun, you don’t see the shadows. Look up unto the Sun of Righteousness, and let your healing and deliverance from the bondage of barrenness come speedily.
Wake up in the morning, let joy fill your heart and soul. Sing His praise and thank Him for a good day ahead. Thank Him that you are even in your right senses to know the desire of your heart. Will a mad woman on the street remember being barren? Thank Him that you even have a husband who is one flesh with you for procreation. Thank Him for His Word that can never fail in your life. Thank Him and thank Him again. As you keep rejoicing in Him, everything that the devil has stolen is being replaced, and sooner than you even think, you will carry your baby. God did not give Hannah only one child as she requested, but many more children followed. This shall be your portion.
SERVE HIM (Exodus 23:25-26)
This is a covenant between God and you. When you fulfill your own part of the agreement, you are automatically free to enjoy the benefits of that agreement. As you serve God, you can never remain barren. Check the Scriptures. No one who served God and was initially called barren remained so for life. God always intervened. Remember Zechariahs (Luke1:5-17). He was in the service of God, when his captivity of barrenness turned. Even though, himself and his wife had passed the normal child bearing age, the covenant of God - via service - will never be broken. As you wait on God for your own child, serve Him. With your time, your means, and your life. Don’t look for God because of children, rather serve Him with your heart for who He is. Matt. 6:33 says every other thing, including children, will freely be added.
Nothing has power to stand against your being fruitful. All it takes is knowledge - locating yourself in the Word of God. If you want to enjoy fruitfulness, as God has declared you to be, go for the light of God’s Word. Keep declaring it until that barren situation disappears. As it is recorded in John 1:5. No situation is too much for God to handle. Countless number of people had gotten their own testimonies simply by operating God’s Word, your own will not be an exception. By the power backing the Word, I bring to you today, that situation of barrenness is consumed right now. You are liberated. I declare you fruitful in Jesus Name.
This is your own month. Your trials are over in the Precious Name of Jesus Christ. I await your testimonies!Have you been born again? If your answer is no and you would want to be born again and to be called a child of God, say this prayer of faith:
Lord Jesus, I come to You today, wash me clean from my sin, make me a new creature. Thank You Jesus for writing my name in the book of life. Now, I know that I am born again. Amen!
Congratulations! You are now born again and a child of God.
Today, I shall be teaching on 'The Blessing of Marriage'. It is my prayer that after this teaching, your eyes of understanding will be opened to what God has packaged for you. First, we shall be looking at the subject: Be Fruitful.
As far as you are a covenant child, there are blessings you must enjoy in your marriage. The devil tries all his best to make sure he hinders God’s people from receiving the blessing of marriage. The devil is always looking for ways to steal from the believer. (John 10:10).
BE FRUITFUL
Unfruitfulness is a problem plaguing some marriages today. However, it is worth nothing that marriage is designed for fruitfulness. With the same breath God called forth light, and it came to be, He also said to man,
Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth (Gen. 1:28).
That was not an admonition, but a commandment. God did not say, “You may be fruitful”, but “ Be fruitful!” God designed your marriage to be fruitful. Never mind whatever contrary report you may be holding in your hands now. Barrenness is not of God, and should not be seen as a lesson or punishment from God. God tempts no man with evil. If there is anything like that, it is of the devil. Remember, the devil is the thief who has come to steal, kill and destroy (John 10:10).
If you are married, and reading this article, and you are expecting the fruit of the womb, know that God is much interested in your being fruitful and multiply. It is the devil that is at the back of your affliction. Grab him and collect back your title from him. A loving father does not give his son a stone in place of bread. Splash the blood on the devil and collect back your inheritance from him NOW! For instance, you have been married for a few years now, and you are running out of patience with God. Maybe there are even some mockers around you saying it to your hearing that you are papa or mama ‘nobody’, rejoice and be glad. Why? The will of your heavenly Father is that you are fruitful, and the Word says:
For the LORD God is a sun and shield: the LORD will give grace and glory: no good thing will he withhold from them that walk uprightly. (Psa. 84:11)
He will not ask you to come back tomorrow for this good thing, He will give it right away. It is in His power to give you and He will surely give it to you NOW. This is your hour. God has made known His will to you. Who can turn His hand back? What kind of medical report can annul what the Almighty Himself says? Whose report will you then believe ? Relax and come to your senses. Stop panicking and running helter-skelter. Stop cursing and abusing your mockers. Stop spending your fortune looking for man-made-god-given-children. Stop frustrating your life. Be at peace with yourself and with your God and let His Word come to pass in your life.
Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward. (Psa. 127:3)
As long as you are a child of God, you are entitled to the blessing of children. No matter what the doctors have diagnosed as being responsible, God is greater than the report. Faced with barrenness, what do you do? PRAISE HIM (Psalm 67:5-7)
Praise is comely. As you praise Him, your womb begins to yield her increase. Stop murmuring, God is not against you. Stop complaining, God is not the cause of your trouble. Remember Hannah, year in and out, she went to Shiloh with her husband, full of complaints that her mate was mocking her. Until she learnt the art of heartfelt prayer and vow to God, nothing happened. Stop looking at your distracters, face your God. When you look up to the sun, you don’t see the shadows. Look up unto the Sun of Righteousness, and let your healing and deliverance from the bondage of barrenness come speedily.
Wake up in the morning, let joy fill your heart and soul. Sing His praise and thank Him for a good day ahead. Thank Him that you are even in your right senses to know the desire of your heart. Will a mad woman on the street remember being barren? Thank Him that you even have a husband who is one flesh with you for procreation. Thank Him for His Word that can never fail in your life. Thank Him and thank Him again. As you keep rejoicing in Him, everything that the devil has stolen is being replaced, and sooner than you even think, you will carry your baby. God did not give Hannah only one child as she requested, but many more children followed. This shall be your portion.
SERVE HIM (Exodus 23:25-26)
This is a covenant between God and you. When you fulfill your own part of the agreement, you are automatically free to enjoy the benefits of that agreement. As you serve God, you can never remain barren. Check the Scriptures. No one who served God and was initially called barren remained so for life. God always intervened. Remember Zechariahs (Luke1:5-17). He was in the service of God, when his captivity of barrenness turned. Even though, himself and his wife had passed the normal child bearing age, the covenant of God - via service - will never be broken. As you wait on God for your own child, serve Him. With your time, your means, and your life. Don’t look for God because of children, rather serve Him with your heart for who He is. Matt. 6:33 says every other thing, including children, will freely be added.
Nothing has power to stand against your being fruitful. All it takes is knowledge - locating yourself in the Word of God. If you want to enjoy fruitfulness, as God has declared you to be, go for the light of God’s Word. Keep declaring it until that barren situation disappears. As it is recorded in John 1:5. No situation is too much for God to handle. Countless number of people had gotten their own testimonies simply by operating God’s Word, your own will not be an exception. By the power backing the Word, I bring to you today, that situation of barrenness is consumed right now. You are liberated. I declare you fruitful in Jesus Name.
This is your own month. Your trials are over in the Precious Name of Jesus Christ. I await your testimonies!Have you been born again? If your answer is no and you would want to be born again and to be called a child of God, say this prayer of faith:
Lord Jesus, I come to You today, wash me clean from my sin, make me a new creature. Thank You Jesus for writing my name in the book of life. Now, I know that I am born again. Amen!
Congratulations! You are now born again and a child of God.
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
Where to find wholesome family sport?
Where to find wholesome family sport?
With the advent of the internet, participating in outdoor sports is getting rare, and spending some quality family time in sport together is almost unheard of. But there is one type of sport that is both affordable and available nearby.
Think again, a family that plays together stay together. With everybody being busy with 'their' thing, it is no wonder that family get-together and quality time are rare nowadays. There is no doubt that the internet has contributed much to this problem, and if you were to ask junior about it, you will most likely get his answer as "I have no time, I need to update my friends in MySpace". So are Dad and Mom. If you were to invite the family to a get-together round of sport, most will not know that sort of sport you are referring to. Indeed, there are not many sporting games that you can have the whole family participating in. But there is one that is not only low cost, but will give everybody with a whole body work out. Yes, I am referring to the wholesome roller skating fun time at the public skating rinks. Here are more reasons to take this game seriously.
* Refreshes family bonds---every one gets along well at the rinks. No matter whether you are young or old, treading along the roller path together is a great feeling. You can have the little ones holding hands with grandpa, coasting slowly, taking care of each other.
* On the rinks, everyone has the same status----no matter how experienced you are with the roller skates, when you are on the rinks, your status is the same with every one else, even with the beginners. Here, Daddy can't impose his authority on junior, so junior gets a rare moment of respect from the senior. That's why the little ones love roller skating.
* Everyone gets a workout----when you are at the rink, you don't want to be just a spectator, you want to join in the fun, unless you are physically disadvantaged. You will also notice that everyone is putting up a smile here and there; the care free atmosphere is pervasive.
* The air is clean and you will probably not smell any cigarette smoke around. Neither will you encounter anybody binging on some fast food? You get everybody behaving at their level best. It is a really healthy place, and very affordable.
Besides all these goodness, the family will get to loose plenty of calories, almost three hundred from an hour of workout. All of them will also get to build up their calf and ankle muscles. It would be quite difficult for other family sports to even come close, be it from an affordable price point or the availability at all seasons. When there are frictions among family members, they can more easily settle it out at the rink than anywhere else. Group of friends will do well to patronize the roller skates rink more often as they can also improve their camaraderie there. Better still, have their birthday parties there; at least there is no necessity to clean out the place and getting rid of the rubbish and the dish washing chore! If family cohesion (certainly rare these days) is very important to you, then you should bring them there as often as possible. Happy cruising and more family quality time for you.
More ideas for the family quality times at roller skates
With the advent of the internet, participating in outdoor sports is getting rare, and spending some quality family time in sport together is almost unheard of. But there is one type of sport that is both affordable and available nearby.
Think again, a family that plays together stay together. With everybody being busy with 'their' thing, it is no wonder that family get-together and quality time are rare nowadays. There is no doubt that the internet has contributed much to this problem, and if you were to ask junior about it, you will most likely get his answer as "I have no time, I need to update my friends in MySpace". So are Dad and Mom. If you were to invite the family to a get-together round of sport, most will not know that sort of sport you are referring to. Indeed, there are not many sporting games that you can have the whole family participating in. But there is one that is not only low cost, but will give everybody with a whole body work out. Yes, I am referring to the wholesome roller skating fun time at the public skating rinks. Here are more reasons to take this game seriously.
* Refreshes family bonds---every one gets along well at the rinks. No matter whether you are young or old, treading along the roller path together is a great feeling. You can have the little ones holding hands with grandpa, coasting slowly, taking care of each other.
* On the rinks, everyone has the same status----no matter how experienced you are with the roller skates, when you are on the rinks, your status is the same with every one else, even with the beginners. Here, Daddy can't impose his authority on junior, so junior gets a rare moment of respect from the senior. That's why the little ones love roller skating.
* Everyone gets a workout----when you are at the rink, you don't want to be just a spectator, you want to join in the fun, unless you are physically disadvantaged. You will also notice that everyone is putting up a smile here and there; the care free atmosphere is pervasive.
* The air is clean and you will probably not smell any cigarette smoke around. Neither will you encounter anybody binging on some fast food? You get everybody behaving at their level best. It is a really healthy place, and very affordable.
Besides all these goodness, the family will get to loose plenty of calories, almost three hundred from an hour of workout. All of them will also get to build up their calf and ankle muscles. It would be quite difficult for other family sports to even come close, be it from an affordable price point or the availability at all seasons. When there are frictions among family members, they can more easily settle it out at the rink than anywhere else. Group of friends will do well to patronize the roller skates rink more often as they can also improve their camaraderie there. Better still, have their birthday parties there; at least there is no necessity to clean out the place and getting rid of the rubbish and the dish washing chore! If family cohesion (certainly rare these days) is very important to you, then you should bring them there as often as possible. Happy cruising and more family quality time for you.
More ideas for the family quality times at roller skates
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